It’s been long that I have been into this blog to put down something in my words, until I read this blog.
Do you really think that we can’t change our destiny? I truly believe that we can change it. To understand this I’d say that you first watch Dr. Zakir Naik video about destiny. In which he has explained it in a pretty decent way. There is no doubt that there is a destiny. It has been written that what is going to happen in one’s life. But it’s not actually what it is written. It’s that all the way you are given with choices, to choose from “a” and “b”. The destiny means that you’ll be given the 2 choices and the choice you made is something you’ll be punished/rewarded for.
So eventually, one thing is clear; that the choices are written. However, the difference that you can make is where you have to choose, which is the point where you can actually change your destiny. But whatever the choice you made is also written :), not in hardcoded form. So, you have to pay, you have to work out something to change that “not hardcoded” form of choice into your desired choice. How would you? Emm, that’s the real question. Let me try to put my answer here.
Suppose, hypothetically, there is written in your destiny that you’ll reach to “point A” which you don’t want to. You have aimed and want to reach at “Point B”. For this, you have to go through some preparations, some tests. Which are Praying (for sure) and working hard, struggling to get what you want and during all this time, God will continuously keep you testing. He will put different tests on your way, the tension, the restlessness and the mental trauma you may suffer during all this time. Now, if you are determined and strong enough to bear all this with all that “solid hard work”, then it means you did your job and you’ll be paid off with your reward, i.e. “Point B”.
There is a saying that “How would I know that the problems that I am facing is some sort of punishment or the tests” and the answer was given as “if those problems are bringing you closer to God, then those are tests, otherwise the punishment”. Yeah, that’s the thing in above case. If you don’t lose your ground during your struggle to reach at your aim, you’ll get it. This is the thing, which Allama Iqbal said in his shair (the most favorite one of mine)
خودی کو کر بلند اتنا کھ ہر تقدیر سے پہلے
خدا بندے سے خود پوچھے بتا تیری رضاء کیا ہے
Khudi ko kar buland itna kay har taqdeer say pehlay
Khuda banday say khud puchay, bata teri raza kya hai
(Increase your selflessness to such heights that before creating each destiny, God himself would have to ask the human ‘What is your opinion about this’ “.)
Believe in God and keep struggling. But remember, be optimistic and believe in the “cost” that you have to pay if you really want to get something which is not meant for you and if you remain pessimistic you’ll end up as a rebellious, rebellious to your aims, to your strength or may be to God as well.