Can we really change our destiny?

It’s been long that I have been into this blog to put down something in my words, until I read this blog.

Do you really think that we can’t change our destiny? I truly believe that we can change it. To understand this I’d say that you first watch Dr. Zakir Naik video about destiny. In which he has explained it in a pretty decent way. There is no doubt that there is a destiny. It has been written that what is going to happen in one’s life. But it’s not actually what it is written. It’s that all the way you are given with choices, to choose from “a” and “b”. The destiny means that you’ll be given the 2 choices and the choice you made is something you’ll be punished/rewarded for.

So eventually, one thing is clear; that the choices are written. However, the difference that you can make is where you have to choose, which is the point where you can actually change your destiny. But whatever the choice you made is also written , not in hardcoded form. So, you have to pay, you have to work out something to change that “not hardcoded” form of choice into your desired choice. How would you? Emm, that’s the real question. Let me try to put my answer here.

Suppose, hypothetically, there is written in your destiny that you’ll reach to “point A” which you don’t want to. You have aimed and want to reach at “Point B”. For this, you have to go through some preparations, some tests. Which are Praying (for sure) and working hard, struggling to get what you want and during all this time, God will continuously keep you testing. He will put different tests on your way, the tension, the restlessness and the mental trauma you may suffer during all this time. Now, if you are determined and strong enough to bear all this with all that “solid hard work”, then it means you did your job and you’ll be paid off with your reward, i.e. “Point B”.

There is a saying that “How would I know that the problems that I am facing is some sort of punishment or the tests” and the answer was given as “if those problems are bringing you closer to God, then those are tests, otherwise the punishment”. Yeah, that’s the thing in above case. If you don’t lose your ground during your struggle to reach at your aim, you’ll get it. This is the thing, which Allama Iqbal said in his shair (the most favorite one of mine)

خودی کو کر بلند اتنا کھ ہر تقدیر سے پہلے
خدا بندے سے خود پوچھے بتا تیری رضاء کیا ہے

Khudi ko kar buland itna kay har taqdeer say pehlay
Khuda banday say khud puchay, bata teri raza kya hai
(Increase your selflessness to such heights that before creating each destiny, God himself would have to ask the human ‘What is your opinion about this’ “.)

Believe in God and keep struggling. But remember, be optimistic and believe in the “cost” that you have to pay if you really want to get something which is not meant for you and if you remain pessimistic you’ll end up as a rebellious, rebellious to your aims, to your strength or may be to God as well.

Quotes that i like

• Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened. [Dr. Suess]
• Be the change that you wish to see in the world. [Mahatma Gandhi]
• Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I am not sure about the universe. [Albert Einstein]
• Life is not measure by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. [Maya Angelou]
• Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. [Albert Einstein]
• Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. [Mark Twain]
• Sometimes, we have to choose between what is right and what is easy. [J. K. Rowling]
• Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: "What! You too? I thought I was the only one." [C. S. Lewis]
• To be yourself in the world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. [Ralph Waldo Emerson]
• In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: It goes on. [Robert Frost]
• It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages. [Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche]

just before end!

Few days back, I had chance to visit my grand ma. It’s been quite a long time that I have visited there place and when I reached there, I was warm heartedly welcomed by all (my aunt, uncle and grand ma). I stayed there for a whole day and had lots of chit chat.

My grand ma is very old. She can hardly walk but all the time she is offering prayer or praising God.  I don’t know how but I started thinking the days when she was young. Just like us. She would be as charming, full of life, passionate and aim full. She was energetic just like we are energetic today and hence she has lot of thinking other than thinking about *her last day*; Death. Those days, she had hardly thought about this thing, not because she doesn’t realize this fact but because she had lot of other things to do. Her relatives, her duties and her own life interests and being busy in those duties she had totally forgotten about this day.

I don’t know what her attitude was towards religion or how often she used to prayer. But at least she didn’t use to think about her last day to that extent, she now may be thinking.

Just imagine a person who is sure that any day can be his last day. He is saying this word and he is not sure that will he able to utter the second one or not. Imagine a person for whom every passing moment is another blessing since it’s not his time of death. How humble will he be? How devoted will he be towards his Religion?

Now, consider our self. What are we? Most of us say and believe that there will be one day, our last day. But how many of use really live each moment thinking about this? Forget about moment, how many of us really think on each day that the next day can be mine last day, am I prepared? Each day, we are so much indulge in thinking our professional task, academic assignments or relatives that we don’t think for a moment of this. We might have been much humble, pious and obedient of HIM if we have this thinking in our mind at each moment, or at least daily.

 

Tell me, when you are gona think about your last day; each and every day or Just before your end?

… am i able to write?

I always wanted to write but whenever i have tried, i was unable. It’s not the case that i don’t know what to write, it’s the case where i can’t get the ways how to write. I have seen number of blogs and they have given jotted down some simple thoughts in such a style, that you feel yourself glued to the post and you can’t stop reading unless the lines end.

 

Just read this blog

The thought, main idea was simple but the way it has been written is amazing. I have read Banu Qudsia, Ashfaq Ahmad and each line of this story had impression as if i am reading something writen by these personalities.

 

The minute details of thinking of a man, amazing! I can’t understand one thing that being a female, how could she (writer) had explained the feelings of the man in so detail. If i would have written down the story, i will have simply wrote “I got up and had a glance on her for a while and then woke her up”.

 

But after reading that post out, I have started thinking the way she thought to write something like that one, Yeah! and i found that there is one thing missing in that part . When the gril placed her head in his lap and said “I want to party, I want you to kiss me”, there must have been some devilish shine in her eyes, the shine which was reflecting her joyfulness, her craziness and all her happiness she will be having and feeling and it was that shine which made him lost in her eyes, for a while, he forgot everything around himself.

 

“Yes there is someone up there, happy with me, that’s why i am having with the beautiful smile which relax me from all my worries, with some glittering eyes which made me feel that there is someone who loves me a lot. Oh God! What a great happiness you have bestowed upon me, in this world “.

MY PHILOSOPHIES ABOUT LIFE

• From the beginning of this world, till end, every individual in this world is following the same pattern of life. Only “things” are changed, but the “living things” follows the same pattern.
• I believe that every thing in this universe is made for me, directly or indirectly. Like, if you say “what is the purpose of me(you reader) that i have been made for you”. Then i’d reply that your purpose is to read these lines that i have wrote. God knew that there will be a day when i’ll write these lines and HE made you to read these lines .You’ll fulfill some other purpose for someone else, but for me, you fulfilled by reading these lines. Similarly, every other thing in this world is made for me, just like this Orkut is made for me.

Relation Ships

• When someone hurts you, write it down in sand, where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for you, engrave it in stone where now wind can ever erase it.

• Never be ashamed to go back to your old friends, friends are there to understand your mistakes.

• They say, it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate him, a day to love him but then an entier life to forget him.

• The bese kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with – never say a word and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you’ve ever had.

• Addition of problems, subtrction of money, multiplication of enemies & division of friends – never get started with such a new relation.

• There are relationships apart from bf/gf, marriage, siblings, friendship that can be very emotional and true, which is beyond the understanding of many people.

• In the end we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.

Life

• Don’t expect from others.

• Don’t be sincere with others, it is the sincerity that lead to the expectations from others. Your sincerity may give you some nice friends, which are hard to find in today world. So in today world your sincerity will give you only the selfish people, who want to and will play with you.

• I hate tears. Simply i hate them. But tears are the only things that describe your emotions and feelings for others. Let the others know about what you feel with your words and if you don’t want to say them then shed tears while you are alone, ALONE: know why, because I think that you should not make other people down with your those “MAGARMACH kay aanso” [actually this is what other will think]

• Always ready to accept changes. Changes are the part of life, it can either be a sudden change, or it can be a slow one, but remember the change will be there, and it will remain there, arm yourself for it.

• If you want to believe, believe in yourself.

• Don’t accept things force fully which you don’t want. Fight for yourself, fight for the thing you wish to have, believe in yourself and know what, what i believe; EVERY HUMAN CAN CHANGE HIS DESTINY.Are you human?

this is what i want to adivse you! .. now ..
SAY CHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEESE .. AND DON’T FORGET TO WATCH BUGS BUNNY .. :d